Cassie Fagan joined SSC at 40 years old because a Tinder date with a coach made it feel safe enough to try. A few months in she got tennis elbow so bad she couldn’t pick up a coffee cup, lost the pull-up she’d just earned, and spent months barely able to lift anything. She kept coming back anyway.
She’s also a relationship coach — a path she found after realizing in her 40s that she was allowed to have needs in a relationship. This conversation connects the two in ways that feel obvious once you hear them: the willingness to look stupid, the discipline of showing up when it’s hard, the difference between seeking something outside yourself versus doing the internal work.
One of the most genuinely funny and quietly honest episodes in the library.
